What do you do you when your husband thinks that you have totally lost your mind over "make-believe" (as he calls it) and won't just let it be? Ever since I found the Twilight Series and this website I have been ME again. For so long since getting married and having kids, I have buried my free spirit and my imagination. Right before this last Christmas, I was ready to explode with desires to create, let lose a little bit, be spontaneous, just simply get outside the box of everyday life! That's when I found Twilight!

I have been with my husband for fourteen years, married twelve. I share and do everything with him and our kids and I love it, however I began to feel this overwhelming sense of needing something just for myself to enjoy...is that wrong? I enjoy the books and this forum so much because it's like hanging out with friends. I am in my mid-thirties but feel like a young twenty something. I don't "go out" without my husband. I jokingly asked him if I could get together with some other Twilight Moms at sometime (secretly, I would love to just get on a plane and go out to Portland or where ever they are and meet Rhonda and Lynds and give them a BIG HUG and beg them to let me tag along) and he just couldn't understand why I would want to. He is wondering whether or not I am starting an early mid-life crisis!

I hope that this doesn't sound like a total whine session, I just wondered if anyone else kind of feels the way I do. We can't help that we are all "DAZZLED", right?

HI, I understand right where you are at! These books kind of take over and get all obsessive in your life. I am on TM all the time just to get my Twilight fix and some evenings till after midnight. My hubby just shakes his head, but I think he is happy that I found something to do other then bug him all the time LOL. If you had always spent so much family time and always did things with your hubby, he is probably just feeling some jealousy. It would be hard for a man to understand that a book can get your attention so wrapped up. But, you sound like me that you always had your life focused around the family and doing with and for them, that you didn't get much ME time. That is how I was. Now I found something to do and have fun with (Twilight) and there are days my family shakes their head at me..............hmmmm don't like it now that mom has a hobby and my hobby is not them 24/7.
If it is a crisis I don't know, but it sure is fun!

Is it wrong to want something thats just for you?? Absolutley not!! It doesn't make you less of a wife or mother! It is a good thing to have other interests.

Haha My theory on men just not comprehending why we would want to get together with other TM's is simply that they have a hard time understanding what its like to just need to talk to other adults. Maybe try explaining it to him like that...Being on TM's is simply having a whole bunch of girlfriends who share a common interest. *cough* obsession. haha

Oh Night Owl I can totally relate! My husband is supportive of my obsession...but just recently he has started getting a little annoyed with me. He said all I do is re-read the books and spend hours on the computer talking with women I don't know. Then when I told him I was going to go to the get together at WC...he called me crazy! At first I was hurt, but I then this is one thing that is for me. He has lots of thigns that are just for him so I asked him if it was really that different then his sports obsessions...he didn't answer ! I look at it this way though...if this is my mid-life crisis, he is getting off easy copmared to some men!

I also pointed out that since my addiction began that I too have become that person that I used to be pre-wife/mom. I have started running again, I am writing again, I have learned new things that I would have been scared to do before. I feel young again, like I have more to offer my kids and hubby then the "old nag" that I was becoming ! I know that he doesn't understand, but I don't understand the draw to watching 15 football games at one time either...so we'll just wonder about each other for the next several years...it will keep our marriage interesting...hopefully !

Sounds like some one's a little jealous!

Tell him to get his own hobby!

I don't know you, but are you a stay at home mom? If you are, I'm sure he's just not sure what to make of you now that you seem to have your own agenda that no longer only involves him and the kids.

I think sometimes men subconsciously think of women as being only there for the kids and the cleaning and the husbands, and get intimidated when other things divert your attention.

I totally agree with this! My hubby is acting the same way. When I first told him about TM's, he was all excited for me. But after a bit, I could totally tell that it annoyed him whenever I would log onto TM's. I almost feel like I need to have a hobby that he's picked out for me, or I feel like I'm not supposed to have a whole lot of me time. It drives me nuts.

I, too, somehow found "ME" again after reading these books. I was starting to feel like I needed something...I think I was feeling a little claustrophobic??? Anyway, these books were a breath of fresh air, and ever since I first read them, I've had new energy. My hubby thinks I'm a little crazy, but he's still pretty supportive. (He's read them too, and enjoyed them.)

My husband thinks I'm crazy too. I finished Eclipse while we were sitting in bed and he was watching TV and as soon as I finished it I opened it up to the beginning and started all over again. He looked at me and said "Uh... do we need to get you a new book tomorrow?" and I said, "Nope." He gave me a very strange look. I've made him watch MTV's preview video and told him that he needs to take me to the movie already and he just sighs because he would never tell me no on something like that. I can't wait to see his face when I go and buy the Penelope DVD just to see the extras of Twilight in it.

My husband and I are like the US military - we adopt a "don't ask, don't tell policy" where Twilight is concerned. He knows about my love of the books, knows I'm here (often) & knows I get together with other TM's, but that's as far as we go. Conversely, I don't ask him about all of the time he spends watching ESPN, being on ESPN.com or going to sporting events. It works out well for us.