Promises

Joanne Maria · **Posted:** Mon Apr 14, 2008 9:59 pm

I think also that is another reason Bella always believes Edward, because even if he is lying, Bella knows deep down inside that he wouldn't without a good reason.

Joanne Maria · **Posted:** Tue Jul 15, 2008 12:00 am

Edward is sincere and that counts for a lot!!!

Devilina07 · **Joined:** Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:26 pm **Posts:** 79

Lisa 314 wrote:

As a mom of a child on the autism spectrum, I live each day, choosing my words and actions with extreme care. My son lives in a literal world, not understanding the abstract at all. If I say, " I am going to the store on Friday to buy you new clothes, then I better follow through and do it just then. Imagine how hard it is for him when someone promises something and does not follow through with it?

Not to lessen the impact of your story but I find that most kids are literal. They remember almost anything you say and will repeat it to you verbatim. It's very hard to come up with acceptable excuses for kids when they remember that you promised them something. You teach kids to keep their word, to not lie and yet you (whomever) isn't keeping up their end of the bargain and it makes learning/understanding confusing. I found this out the hard way with my cousin and then later with my Little Sister. I learned not to make a promise or say that I was going to do something when I knew there was the slightest of possibilities that I might have to back out.

Olympic Coven · **Joined:** Sun Oct 12, 2008 3:00 am **Posts:** 192

All of these vampires were from a different era. when promises meant something.

keepingupwiththekids · **Posted:** Sun Nov 16, 2008 2:57 pm

Lisa 314 wrote:

Ladies, please let me start off by saying, that there are so many wonderful thoughts being expressed here in this thread.

Promises, unfortunately are something that the general populous of today does not hold in as high a regard as it has in years past. Nighttimepatronofthearts, I believe it was you who said that Human Edward grew up in a time when a man's word was his bond; this was so true; something to be looked upon as trustworthy and binding. Edward chooses his words and promises to Bella very carefully, as Andie mentioned, thus taking on a greater meaning given the present day time frame they are occurring in (It also makes me take a closer look at Edward's ability to lie to Bella so free and easily, which is being discussed here.).

To an extent, this is nonexistent in today's world. We tend to gravitate towards a suspicious by nature attitude (not without cause, sadly enough) rather than looking upon someone's word as being sacred. Our first instinct is to "get it in writing", rather than trying to look at the bigger picture and really understand the underlying message that is trying to be conveyed. I am not saying that we should fall victim to gullibility, but a nice balance of the two would work for me.

This entire way of choosing how to feel, most certainly has a domino effect on us. We tend to pass these feelings onto our children,( those most influenced by our actions) thus, perpetuating the mindset.

As a mom of a child on the autism spectrum, I live each day, choosing my words and actions with extreme care. My son lives in a literal world, not understanding the abstract at all. If I say, " I am going to the store on Friday to buy you new clothes, then I better follow through and do it just then. Imagine how hard it is for him when someone promises something and does not follow through with it?

Just my thought on a very interesting subject. Thank you for allowing me to express them.

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