Can't live without each other--any real-life examples?

**Joanne Maria** · Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 10:22 pm Post subject:

twintch...I too am in a similar situation. My husband, Billy, and I have been separated for 6 years, not divorced. I have not been out with anyone else and only go out with Billy, yes we date. We even go on family vacations together. Weird, I know. We never went to get a divorce, why...don't need one. Billy and I always wanted to keep things friendly for our daughters, never wanted an ugly relationship.

Many times I think of asking him back, but I am scared, I don't want to revisit the New Moon in my life. Although he hasn't given me any reason to think that those terrible things will happen again, I remain scared, it was too painful.

Shimmer, like you, I have no desire to put myself out there again. The thought of being with someone else makes me want to vomit. I would rather be alone.

Billy and I just had our 25th anniversary, yes he took me out to dinner. Our daughters swear we are the most dysfunctional couple in the world, but they wouldn't want it not to be. Many times during our marriage, after a pitfall of some sort, I have said that if we get through this, I know it was meant to be. Well, obviously, the last pitfall was a HUGH one, but we are still hanging in there, so my guess is that we are meant to be and only time will heal my wounds, I hope...because I am sick of this state of confusion I live in. And in my heart I know our love was truly meant to be.
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bisskiss · Posted: Tue Aug 26, 2008 11:38 pm Post subject:

**Joanne Maria** · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 1:19 am Post subject:

bisskiss:

gates4100 · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 11:25 am Post subject:

I ahve been with my boyfriend for almost 8yrs now. I lov ehim like there is no tommorow and I couldnt picture my life without him--even though he can get on my nerves at times Wink

But that is normal. WE havent marries yet cause it just hasnt came about--we know we love each other to no end, just dont see the need to get married rat the moment.
PArt of me knows he is scared a little..not of marriage but being the FATHer figure for my son..even though he has been in his life for this long..see my son's father--my fiance' at the time was killed in a motorcycle accident when my son was 5 mths old--it was the most HORRIBLE thing I have ever gone through, but when I met the man I am with now--he has always been there for us--as a father...I just think he may be scared of letting us down some how--But I know he could never do that. I lov ehim so much--I dont know what I would do without him in my life
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Laivina · Posted: Wed Aug 27, 2008 1:13 pm Post subject:

twinklepixy · Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 1:46 am Post subject:

emogirl82 · Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 2:07 am Post subject:

I think I had my New Moon experience last year. I've been divorced already at the age of 26 (was 21 and divorced by 23). I was in a relationship of 3 years and we just werent right for one another so we broke up and I met my most recent ex. The one that has crumpled a part of me for so long and i'm finally no the mend. We were only together 6 months but this guy and I were perfect in so many ways, we had a life most people only dream of living and it was so easy. Everything was easy and natural and there was no fighting, no forcing emotions, it was just us. It was great. We got closer while his family went on vacation to Fiji last summer for 3 weeks ... being a world away puts your feelings in perspective. I was a wreck while he was gone but we emailed and called when we could. He wrote the most beautiful things to me by email about us spending the rest of our lives together when he finally got out of college etc ... when he got home it was like everything was rekindled and perfect all over. THis was it ... we were going to be together no matter what. At least I thought ...

A month after returning home, apparently our closeness was too much for his parents and they forced their hand and he came home and broke up with me against what he really wanted. He told me it was "what he wanted" but I knew better. I was living with him and i had to pack up a small bag and head to my moms of all places. I was like Bella, a wreck on the floor curled in a ball. Everytime I thought his name or heard his name I'd grip my arms around my body affraid I was going to explode that the hole inside me would rip out from my body and finish me off. I was in a very dark place. When I read New Moon this was especially hard for me to read because of what I went through. Oddly enough ... about 4 months later (Sep, Oct, Nov, Dec) he came back and called me after another vacation with his family. Saying how much he missed me and finally telling me the truth. I had to explain to him just as Bella explains in New Moon, him being gone was like he had died in her eyes ... this is how I felt about him. To me it was easier to believe he was dead and no longer of this world than to believe he didnt want me. When he told me I was a wreck all over again. Now dating my current boyfriend whom I've been with almost a year. He and I went back and forth thinking about getting back together because we were so close and connected. In the end it wasn't the right fit. I can't be around him without feeling the pain. So I know what Stephenie was feeling when she wrote Bella's pain in NM. You guys might not think this was a serious as anything you've been through since most of you are married at this point but that 6 months changed my life. And now these books are my love affair!
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