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forever_bitten · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 5:02 am

I'll have to remember that! Right now, our kids are 2 1/2 & 5 mo. So, I think we have a while to wait.

TallMan · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 2:17 pm

Melissa Cullen wrote:

TallMan wrote:

DO HUSBANDS AND WIVES JUST NOT TALK ANYMORE?

Aww, TallMan...

Yes, husbands and wives do still talk. I talked to my DH at dinner tonight and now he's playing the Wii while I surf TM. If you want to talk to your wife, just talk to her. Ask her how her day was, anything. If that doesn't work send her a note like you used to in junior high: Do you want to talk? Check yes or no. :lol:

(Sorry if I just stuck my nose where it doesn't belong.)

NO NO.... My wife and I talk every single day. About; our kids, politics, science news, sports, gardening, cooking, news [domestic, international], literature, movies. We talk all the time about anything we've found interesting. No, what I was meaning is does everyone on TMs talk or not to their spouse, boy/girlfriend, partner, whatever. I was surfing around the forum yesterday and I kept seeing posts about how DHs are not paying attention or their relationship is in trouble and these novels have shed light on the problems. They were everywhere! I started getting depressed by it. Why did the communication stop or did you never? TMs come on here and write beautifully about how these book have affected them. Then I'll see a post somewhere by them voicing issues in their relationship. Why is it we can easily communicate here, to strangers, but not to the ones we love most? Just more of my mental ramblings.

Lisawith4 · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 2:20 pm

My husband and I try to have a real date at least once a month. It gets expensive with having to pay a babysitter and all, but it is so worth it for the benefit it brings to our marriage. We also rent movies or play games just the two of us after the kids go to bed a couple of other times a month so we can have time to reconnect without the kids. I can't wait until my oldest can babysit (just 1 more year!). Then we are going to have weekly dates whenever possible.

Edit - Tall man: I think that a lot of the people on TMs have good relationships, but there are some who are going through tough times and one way we woman commiserate and offer support is by sharing our own experiences.

TallMan · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 2:59 pm

Lisawith4 wrote:

My husband and I try to have a real date at least once a month. It gets expensive with having to pay a babysitter and all, but it is so worth it for the benefit it brings to our marriage. We also rent movies or play games just the two of us after the kids go to bed a couple of other times a month so we can have time to reconnect without the kids. I can't wait until my oldest can babysit (just 1 more year!). Then we are going to have weekly dates whenever possible.

Edit - Tall man: I think that a lot of the people on TMs have good relationships, but there are some who are going through tough times and one way we woman commiserate and offer support is by sharing our own experiences.

This is partly what I'm getting at. I can't even remember all the threads but once I started to notice them they were everywhere (sort of like silver Volvos). Maybe this needs to be a new thread on communication. If my wife has a bad day she can talk to me about anything. It was like that even when we were dating. I watch men that I know just tune out when their wives try to talk to them about anything and it p****s me off. This is the mother of their children, not their maid or cook.

momof5 · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 3:02 pm

My husband is very good about letting me vent. He doesn't try to solve my problems (usually). But we can't talk too "deeply" at home because we have teenagers with really good ears! We have to save the more serious stuff for dates or late at night.

Melissa Cullen · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 4:23 pm

TallMan wrote:

Melissa Cullen wrote:

TallMan wrote:

DO HUSBANDS AND WIVES JUST NOT TALK ANYMORE?

Aww, TallMan...

Yes, husbands and wives do still talk. I talked to my DH at dinner tonight and now he's playing the Wii while I surf TM. If you want to talk to your wife, just talk to her. Ask her how her day was, anything. If that doesn't work send her a note like you used to in junior high: Do you want to talk? Check yes or no. :lol:

(Sorry if I just stuck my nose where it doesn't belong.)

NO NO.... My wife and I talk every single day. About; our kids, politics, science news, sports, gardening, cooking, news [domestic, international], literature, movies. We talk all the time about anything we've found interesting. No, what I was meaning is does everyone on TMs talk or not to their spouse, boy/girlfriend, partner, whatever. I was surfing around the forum yesterday and I kept seeing posts about how DHs are not paying attention or their relationship is in trouble and these novels have shed light on the problems. They were everywhere! I started getting depressed by it. Why did the communication stop or did you never? TMs come on here and write beautifully about how these book have affected them. Then I'll see a post somewhere by them voicing issues in their relationship. Why is it we can easily communicate here, to strangers, but not to the ones we love most? Just more of my mental ramblings.

Okay. Sorry for the misunderstanding. I think you're right, though, that a lot of men just tune out their wives (unfortunately). Luckily, my husband and I can and do talk about anything and everything. I think I'm one of the lucky ones (and your wife, too, it sounds like)! I guess we should just be thankful that we aren't in a relationship like that and for those that are, at least they have a place to vent about it.

forever_bitten · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 4:28 pm

Okay, so my job is doing billing for a hospital. Most of you won’t understand this, but I have to let it out. AAAAGGGGGHHHHH! I HATE it when people in the Admitting dept (front end) check the patient’s eligibility with their insurance, find out it’s not active, and yet they still put the insurance in the account. Come on, people, please! Now, it just causes more work on my side (the back end). We’ve now billed the insurance; they’ve denied it because they weren’t active (which we knew). Now, I have to do a whole bunch of steps to fix this. I don’t mind doing the work, but this is completely unnecessary, especially since there are notes in the account that they VERIFIED that the insurance isn’t active. THIS DRIVES ME NUTS!

angellove · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 6:03 pm

TallMan wrote:

DO HUSBANDS AND WIVES JUST NOT TALK ANYMORE?

My husband and I do talk alot. He is my best friend and I love that he can step back and look at things from astrangers point of view when I say, " can I ask you as a friend and not a husband?"
It sometimes changes the answers, when concern and love don't cloud an issue. But you have to promise to try to not be hurt or offened or question the foundations you know to be true.

When my hubby want to talk to me about nothing in peticular or just needs attention, he stares at me with a naughty look and gets my full attention.

"He looks at you like you're something to eat" mike newton

Works everytime!

angellove · **Posted:** Fri Jun 27, 2008 6:20 pm

forever_bitten wrote:

Okay, so my job is doing billing for a hospital. Most of you won’t understand this, but I have to let it out. AAAAGGGGGHHHHH! I HATE it when people in the Admitting dept (front end) check the patient’s eligibility with their insurance, find out it’s not active, and yet they still put the insurance in the account. Come on, people, please! Now, it just causes more work on my side (the back end). We’ve now billed the insurance; they’ve denied it because they weren’t active (which we knew). Now, I have to do a whole bunch of steps to fix this. I don’t mind doing the work, but this is completely unnecessary, especially since there are notes in the account that they VERIFIED that the insurance isn’t active. THIS DRIVES ME NUTS!

Try talking to a supervisor that you know will care that company time is being wasted, work is backlogged and the revenue that the hospital receives is delayed when proper protocol is not adhered to and that the solution is as simple as attention to detail. Then explain the problems you are experiencing and the cause It may be one person and easily correctable, if not then the front dept may need supervisional intervention and re-evaluation of the proper processes to increase production. ow! Now MY head hurts too! Go get 'em!

forever_bitten · **Posted:** Sat Jun 28, 2008 4:59 am

I'm venting:

I'm kinda irritated about all of the hoopla regarding Rob's myspace music page. Everyone should just calm down, take an Edward chill pill, & just enjoy the music.

Twilighter · **Posted:** Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:48 pm

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Lilith wrote:

LadyNoreh wrote:

1DRTWINS wrote:

Lilith wrote:

1DRTWINS wrote:

Lilith wrote:

Ok, so I'm extremely ticked off right now. I go to open my pay stub tonight, expecting a nice big pay check only to find it a lot smaller than I thought!!! I look at my hourly rate only to notice they paid me straight time for 98.5 hours when I was supposed to get 88 hours at straight time and 10.25 hours at time and a half.

Now, I had agreed to work overtime to help them while they were short staff. But I had also requested that I continue working 6 shifts per week to save up some money for an upcoming trip and other financial goals. The agreement was to continue getting time and a half for anything over 44 hours per week until we became full staff. I only finished training our part time night person last week!!

So naturally... I'm ticked off and am upset because I was expecting a much bigger pay check, especially with an optometrist appointment coming up and some other major expenses!!!

GRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Rant done!!!

That's awful. I'm so sorry! Can they straighten it out & cut you another check before your expenses hit?

I left a note on my manager's desk with a photocopy of my pay stub. So hopefully she will fix it but I likely won't see it until my next pay. Its only about $60 but still... I didn't work myself to death to not get "credit" for it.

$60 is still $60 more than you have now. I'm so sorry & hope they get it fixed soon.

What a bummer!! I hope they straighten it out for you..

Ok, so the assistant manager said it was because I agreed to work 6 shifts a week... I agreed to continue to work it but until we were full staff, I was to get paid overtime. Once we were full staff and the new staff was TRAINED, then I would get paid straight time. Ugh! But no message from my general manager. *sighs*

Twilighter · **Posted:** Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:54 pm

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Golden_Topaz_Eyes_42 wrote:

LadyNoreh wrote:

1DRTWINS wrote:

flaherty1013 wrote:

laruebush wrote:

Golden_Topaz_Eyes_42 wrote:

Today just sucks and I needed to vent about it! First, I went to the doctor this morning cause I feel positively icky and I have a sinus infection & bronchitis. Yuck yuck yuck! I came home with more meds than a pharmacy! Second, I went into the garage to get my cell phone out of my car and locked myself out of the house. So I was stuck in the garage with nothing but a cell phone for 45 minutes in my pj's - super embarassing! My mother-in-law left work to come let me in the house since my hubby works in downtown Atlanta and it would take almost an hour to get to me. Luckily, my mother-in-law is great and she didn't even make fun of my situation. I'm going to go take a bubble bath now. Thanks for listening!

I am sorry you are having such a bad day. Maybe a little Robert is what the doctor should have ordered.

I'm so sorry for you. Just take it easy tonight (if you can). Drink some tea. Watch some really bad tv. Go to be early. Get better soon.

You poor thing! Sick is bad enough, but locked out to boot? Get well soon.

Sorry the day sucked

Now that you're in the house.. relax, have some Twilight therapy and feel better!!!

Thanks for all the wonderful advice ladies! It helped tremendously. I have my copy of Twilight and a hot cup of tea. I'm relaxing....

Twilighter · **Posted:** Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:55 pm

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kpbelle25 wrote:

Justajerseygal wrote:

LadyNoreh wrote:

I'm going on vacation in a week, but I think I'm going to start a little early with a self-imposed exile from the computer and my phone. I'm being surrounded by negativity... my job, my friends, my life in general... even the wonderful TMs (my escape from all that) have been getting bombarded lately. I hate drama, hate conflict and negativity, so I just need to back away and clear my head; put things back into perspective and find my center again. It's time to do a little mental spring cleaning!

Thank you all so much for being awesome and for making a place where I can post this. Hopefully when I get back in a couple weeks, I'll be able to add to your rays of sunshine! (Maybe I'll have some Hawaii pictures, too

)

Thanks again, TMs <3.

Hawaii??? NICE.. I am going to London this summer... have fun and catch some waves for me!!

Hawaii was without a doubt the best vacation i have ever been on...i hope you enjoy yourself and get the rest and relaxation that you need

Twilighter · **Posted:** Sun Jun 29, 2008 4:57 pm

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vicky wrote:

Lilith wrote:

Bluestem wrote:

Lilith wrote:

flaherty1013 wrote:

twilightdar wrote:

Lilith wrote:

Okay, so I work in the hotel business. I'm a night manager meaning I work strictly nights. So I do regular front desk work plus manage the intial accounting details for our general manager.

I've been doing this for 9 years. Well hotel business for 9 years. 6 and a half years of in house reservations or regular front desk and the rest as night auditor/manager.

Tonight was the first night I had to evict guests from the hotel. Trust me, not a pretty site. It was horrible and I pray to the Gods that I never HAVE to do that again.

This is all after I was threatened last night at my music gig by a "former friend" for money that she claims I owe her that I do not.

*sighs*

On a happier note... I just checked out a guest with the last name Cullen... LOL!

I'm so sorry you had such a bad night(s). I must say even though it sucks having to evict guests your pretty lucky that was your first time in 6 and a half years! Hopefully it was your last! *HUGS*

You're in a tough industry - I don't envy you there!

Good luck!

Yeah it was a rough night... And today I awoke to verbal threat on my voicemail from a former friend, and then email making some serious threats... I think I have to get the local authorities involved... again... this time for personal reasons.

*sighs*

Also, do not hesitate to seek legal counsel, even though you really don't owe this person for anything. If anything, it will lessen the stress you will have.

Some people can't live without drama - FICTIONALIZED, though IT CAN BECOME *their* reality - so dont' be surprised if this has to do with getting attention.

I know what you are going through; I had a former friend who stalked me for four years before she gave up. I realized she was one of those people who isn't happy unless she sucks you dry (like a vampire) of your emotional worth and doesn't hesitate to work without boundaries. So maintain your distance from this person and get yourself some legal and law enforcement support asap.

I have a meeting with my manager at work in the morning and I am also going to see the local authorities with the evidence I do have. She claims I owe her money but I don't. Oh yeah, warned my superintendant at my apartment building and will be changing my phone number. The only way she can reach me is at work, or via email and if she continues to push it then it will make my case stronger.

im sorry that you had a night like that, cant believe some people do things like that.

i would get the police involved.

hope it doesnt happen again.

angellove · **Posted:** Sun Jun 29, 2008 10:16 pm

Yeah! *backing ya up*

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