Ohhh, thanks for the great responses, ladies! It's interesting to read everyone's personal experiences. And about "When Harry Met Sally" (one of my all-time favorite movies)- I actually thought about what they say in the movie when I started the thread!!

Like I said, I'm not opposed to men friends but as fate would have it I don't have any at the moment. My *husband* on the otherhand, has almost ALL girl friends. One of them is married, another is in a very bad relationship and the other few are single girls. Most of them are a few years to 10 years younger then us and most of them are really pretty and in fantastic shape (grrr....it figures, right?) Granted they see each other exclusively at work, occasionally have lunch together during the week and IM each other all the time. As my husband travels a lot, sometimes he and his friends will have dinner together. I'm a jealous person (perhaps THE first thing I'd change about myself if I could) and sometimes this all eats me up.

So I guess that's my rant for the week Thanks for making it this far!!

Stacey

I have to say in your situation, I don't think these friendships are a good thing. If you had no discomfort about your husband and his friends, then I would say all is well, but that's obviously not the case. Have you told your husband you're uncomfortable with his friendhips? I have male friends and if my husband said he had any issues with them, I would have to respect his feelings and end the friendship. Marriage can be difficult enough without causing insecurity along the way.

Just my opinion, I know, but I hope it helps.

Thanks 1DRTWINS! I really appreciate the advice. I have explained my feelings to my husband and we're working on it. I haven't asked him to end the friendships (I don't think that would be fair of me to do so as those friendships are the one thing he really likes about his otherwise stressful job) but I think he understands my feelings about it all and that definitely helps. Although my post may have made it sound as such, I don't think that my husband would be unfaithful. It's just that, as his friendships are either through work or long-distance, there's no way that I can be a part of it as well and I'm just jealous of it. It's silly, I know!

Anyway, I do appreciate your advice and concern!! Thanks again!

Stacey

For me, I can be friends with guys, as long as there is no attraction. I have tons of guy friends who I've never been attracted to. Once there is a spark, no matter how small, it's dangerous territory.

I really don't think exes can be friends (at least in my personal experience, particularly if it was a long, meaningful relationship). Chemistry often still exists, and even if you don't act on it, it can be a major strain. I also tend to hang on to feelings, though, so others may not have this problem...

it is possible, i have loads of male friends and my hubby and me were friends for 5 years before we got together.
he also has a lot of female friends.

i think anything is possible.

I think they can certainly just be friends. I've had many male friends. Some of whom I was attracted to and some not. But I never crossed that line....except with the one that I married
But I do have a lot of guy friends.

It totally is. Most of my friends are men. I can't really stand women. (No offense, gals!) I find it difficult to talk to them. When it comes to women, I am like an awkward 13 year old boy. Around men, I can loosen up and be myself without getting dirty looks like another woman would give.

okay ladies I have to give my 2 cents on this cuz this is a "thing" I deal with in my life......
first, I know it is possible for men and women to be just friends...

second, I also know that there ARE people who can't be just friends with the opposite sex, like myself lol but then again this is coming from a single 27 year old. I want to marry my best friend.....basically what I look for in a guy is all the same quailities I want in a friend. So if I have a guy friend who is good looking, nice, funny, and has all the same intrest that I do and we have alot in common and you want to hang out with them cuz they are fun....I start to notice that he is exactly what I want in a partner....so there for a crush develops and usually goes bad LOL! and I am sure that this happens to guys with girls.....so yea I have no guy friends...but to you girls who can have male friends with no attraction...more power to you!!! hmmmm maybe this is why I am Team Jacob!! LOL!

Yes. I've always had more guy friends then girl friends and I still do. My best friend is a guy and he is married. His wife is beautiful and loving and has became one of my good friends as well. (I knew him before he met her). I have several other guy friends that I've never had anything other than a plantonic relationship with. Sure there were a few that got complicated which is bound to happen, but men and women can be just friends.

I know it's possible. One of my best friends is a guy that I've known since we were 11. He taught me how to drive and helped me through some of my worst boyfriend moments. Now we are both married and each of us had our first baby last year. I have a son and he has a daughter so we're already working on how many sheep he owes me for their betrothal. lol

I think it is entirely possible for men and women to be friends, but I agree 100% with some of the others who mentioned that if attraction were to ever becomes a part of the mixture - then it's time to put distance between oneself and the opposite sex friend in question. Also I don't think it's wise to spend lots of alone time with a friend of the opposite gender, say for work luncheons etc. even if there is no attraction - feelings may develop along the way and that might lead to problems in the marriage down the road.

My thoughts exactly!